Thursday, October 14, 2010

What sisterhood?

I have to be honest.  I'm really not enjoying being pregnant with roughly 2,398,578 other fabulous ladies. 

The thing is I'm WAY too competitive to be able to handle this very maturely.  I'm tired of comparing
  • how much weight we have gained or more importantly NOT gained
  • how we look in maternity wear
  • baby names and who has picked out a cuter name
  • how close one sibling will be to the newest baby in age and whose life will be more difficult
But it doesn't end there folks.  I'm also tired of competing as a wife and SAHM.
  • who is cooking more
  • who is cooking better recipes
  • whose house is miraculously cleaner despite how many perfectly put together children they have
  • who is able to read their bible every day
  • who is the better hostess
  • who is able to keep up with their perfect hobbies and do all of their chores
  • who is able to go to the gym everyday and maintain a great figure
Honestly I just simply feel as though I'm having a difficult time "catching up".  I don't have it all together.  I don't have the dishes cleaned everyday.  In fact I truly adore my husband when he does it for me even though I had plenty of time to do it.  I don't always eat what's right for me.  I don't always want to cook.  Actually, I almost NEVER want to cook.  I don't always spend time in the Word because there is just too much to accomplish and yet I kick myself because I didn't get everything done.


There I said it.  I have flaws.  Many flaws in fact.  And I hate feeling like they are on display EVERY DAY.  Left to my own devices I wouldn't feel so bad.  But there are far greater women in my little world who remind me constantly to raise the bar that already feels so heavy. 

So ladies, stop being so great ok?  You know, just for a week month or so, just so I can catch my breath.


  1. I happen to think that every woman that you think has it all together also has days where she drops the spaghetti sauce on the floor and cries in the closet for a few minutes. Not that I have ever done that.

  2. I'll bet your "friend" still rocks it though. Thanks for the perspective Bekah!

  3. You're doing just fine!! You are an awesome, strong, wonderful, creative, kick-a$$ chick!!! You have a lot going on so it's understandable that you are frustrated. I agree with Bekah. All those women you see as "perfect" are most likely trying to put their best face forward so that you don't see them as a puddle on the floor. I think I'd be that puddle too!! :)

    I say just be you and do it amazingly! It's what you are best at!!! I think a girls day/night is definitely in order!! :)

  4. Those ladies sound a little more self-righteous than "great" to me. You do fine. Don't worry about them.

  5. oh my dear, you are fabulous.. you are so not alone. All us pregnant women are wishing that the other one would blow up like a balloon just so the other can feel pretty for the moment being. ;) oh, and i totally order pizza at least once a week so i dont have to cook.

  6. Oh good gravy I sure hope coming over here helped you feel better! I should've shown you my closets!!! Or my steaming pile of papers/bills to go through. And I hope you didn't scrape your feel stepping on all those crumbs! ;)
    Comparing is dangerous and horrible for our self esteem. Unfortunately it's so powerful. Try not to hang around anyone who makes you feel "less than". I think if we all wished the best for each other it would help.
    I think you are doing a wonderful job! Your baby is happy and your husband is happy. That is SUCCESS!